Lisa Abelar
Lisa Abelar is an accomplished storyteller and copywriter based in Gilbert who seeks adventure for her blended family and runs a non-profit called For Your Record to support domestic abuse survivors with court fees. Her experience as a survivor herself, navigating the legal system and dealing with the financial burden that is associated with it, fueled the idea behind how For Your Record would serve survivors.
When she isn't reporting a story for a local magazine, writing website copy, drafting a blog for a client, or working on her own book, she is most likely cuddling a dog, feeding a chicken, paddling the river, or hiking in the mountains. An avid adventurer, she chronicles her family's adventures on Instagram at @raisingoutdoorkids.
Interested in the Grand Canyon video mentioned in our conversation with Lisa? You can learn more and watch, “How the Grand Canyon Changed A Life” video using the link provided.
Episode Transcription
Guiding Growth. Conversations with Community Leaders. In this podcast, we'll explore the human journey of leaders. There are stories of humility, triumph, roadblocks, and lessons learned, come join us as we journey together and uncover the questions you've always wanted to know. This podcast is brought to you by the Gilbert Chamber of Commerce, providing resources, connections and belonging for business professionals and modern moments, an event and meeting venue in the heart of Gilbert. So today I have actually not met this guest before. This is amazing. This is like the first time ever I know, but I am actually fascinated by the story and she becomes highly recommended with some accomplishments that I can't wait to have her share.
So our guest today grew up in Michigan. She has always had a passion for writing and storytelling which blossomed into a career first as a staff journalist for Arizona Republic, then a freelance writer and now the owner of her own content strategy company. After being an abusive marriage. In 210, she established a nonprofit called for your record to support domestic abuse survivors with court fees. She is now married to the love of her life and together they share five Children. Please welcome Lisa. Welcome. We're glad to have you here.
Thanks for having me. So we're going to start with what we call rapid fire. All right, let's go. You first Star Wars or Star Trek? Star Wars. What's your favorite color? Like a coral color, winter or summer, summer. What did your mom call you as a kid? Lisa? Favorite holiday? Uh I would have to say Christmas, Christmas best answer. What is the last book you read? I'm in the middle of some. I'm reading this one right now by Rick Rubin. That is fascinating. I think it's called the Creative Act.
It's so incredible. Um I highly recommend it. I'm not done with it yet. But yeah. Would you ever go on vacation by yourself? Yes. Camping or glamping camping. If you had intro music, what song would it be? You have to sing it too, by the way? Oh my gosh, you do not have to sing it. He makes up his own rules sometimes. Um I'm going to go with, I'm a big hip hop fan because I was raised in the nineties, but I'm going to go with Wild Flowers by Tom Petty.
OK. Go with that. But if it were a nineties hip hop song, gosh, there's so many to choose from. I mean, my karaoke song As Baby Got Back. You think T L C Waterfalls for me being there? We have some other ideas. But we'll go with yours. Ok. Last one. Um, glass half full or half empty. I would have suspected that this podcast is brought to you by Mercy Gilbert Medical Center. Recognized as one of the top 216 best hospitals by health grades. Mercy Gilbert Medical Center is a full service acute care not for profit community hospital, providing exceptional health care to the East Valley with a staff of 143 employees and 214 volunteers.
Patients can expect the expertise of more than 213 physicians representing all major specialties. Mercy Gilbert Medical Center is proud to be part of the local community and an award winning employer, learn more at dignity health dot org forward slash Arizona. Alright. Well, thanks again for being here. Let's tie up, let's dig into the beginnings, shall we? You want to go first? Yeah, you grew up an only child in Michigan. What did childhood look like for you? Um It was cold more often than not. Um You know, I'm a latch key kid.
So I was like right in that era um where my parents worked long hours and trusted me on my own. And so there was like a lot of imaginative time where, you know, we'd make up games in the driveway with my friends or I'd go over to other friend's house, basically be an extra kid, you know, for a while. Um and you know, prayed for snow days and um if not, we are like freezing at the end of the driveway waiting for the bus. Um, and then, because I was an only child, my parents were able to take me places.
I think easier. I know now as having a lot of kids that it's, it's easier with one but you can still make it work. So, um, we visited Arizona a lot, like my parents loved Arizona. So that's kind of how we all ended up out here. Ok. So I just have to go back because we're both from Michigan and I spend a lot of summers in Michigan. So, talk about some of your favorite things to do summer time. Michigan. Oh, going to Grand Haven, which was about 210 minutes from our house, which is right on Lake Michigan.
It's adorable. Little lake town. Um getting sun burned like it was like a thing, right? Like I, I need to get a good tan today because you never know when the sun is going to come back out again. Um So yeah, those are like the, I think just going to the beach and going to the lakes. That was the best part of summer. I'm more interested, not in Michigan but in storytelling. So you got into that. That, that sounds very interesting and there's probably a ton of influences that got you into that.
Talk about that. So when I was at the Arizona Republic, um I was reporting on all these different beats Right. Just kind of like trying to make my way as a reporter and one of my colleagues um very much knew her calling would be in live storytelling. I felt like the written word was much more my jam because I didn't even want to answer a question in class in school. So it turned bright red. I know, but it doesn't feel that way. It doesn't feel weird right now.
Um And so she pulled together this event and was like, you're my friend, I need you, you're telling a story. And so I was like, ok, no, no, no one will be there. It doesn't really matter. It's the first one. And when I walked in, it was one of the rare times in my life when my knees went weak where you could feel it because it was packed and everyone was standing, it was in a little like pizza joint on Mill Avenue and I was like, there's no way to back out now, but I just had to like, breathe through it and do it and it worked and we all survived.
And so that was like the first and then her storyteller, um, events took off. Um, and they've been going ever since. And so she keeps inviting me back and, um, I keep having stories to tell, but I still consider myself a written storyteller more so than a verbal one. And so did you go to school at a S U for a little while. I, this is like, such a shame point for me. But, um, I went to school for two years in Michigan. Um, back to back blizzards.
Like, we were locked in our dorm. Like, it was, it was awful. And, um, when I moved out here I was like, it's sunny every single day. I'm going outside and I was enrolled at A S U but I was like, I'm going outside, I'm going outside, I'm going outside. So I did a year and I just, um, I ended up transferring to an actually a broadcasting academy because I thought I wanted to be a sports radio chick. Um, and so I never like finished my full Bachelor's A U. Um, I just came up a few credits short because I transferred to like a no shame needed because you're here today.
So it's fine. I know. But it's just that one thing, you know, and it's like, oh, it's so close because if one of my kids would do that now, I'd be like, get back there and just finish that. It's never too late. Right. I know. Yeah. Ok. So going back to the beginnings of that though, talk about your childhood and how you got into writing. I mean, it sounds like you had a lot of experiences that you're probably reflecting on. But how did writing become a thing for you?
I always considered myself and I still say this to my kids, um like the dumbest one in the smart class. Like I was with the gifted kids, but those kids went to M I T and they went to Harvard. I'm not even joking, like went to Harvard and they were, they were incredibly intelligent and I always was like, mispronouncing a word in the English class or like, none of the English teachers specifically English. Well, math too, I'd stay after in math but um, none of my English teachers ever, um, gave me positive feedback, um, on specifically writing because when you're in those honors classes, like, it's a lot of writing and until one finally did, like, my senior year, she was like, you have a style that is just different and relatable and I love it and don't stop.
And so I've always, like, kind of held on to that but I didn't know I could make it a career. Really? You remember that name? Yeah, Mr Gary. I tried to look her up to, like, write her a letter but I couldn't find a way of getting a hold of her. She was wonderful. Um, because she made it a possibility. I still didn't know it could be a career. Honestly. I thought I'd just go into pr, I thought I was going to be APR girl for like, an NBA team.
You're killing me because I was a journalism major and I just went into PR, I majored in art. Yeah. Like, I mean, how do you really know when you're like a teenager, what exactly you're going to do with your talents or how those talents will play out? Um, so I think it just really evolved throughout my career to where I am now and how, or how one person's words will give you the possibilities that you didn't see before. So, yeah. And I think, um, I don't know if it's just my personality or if it's um some creatives in general where you second guess, I know everyone has like impostor syndrome to some degree.
But um and I'll write something and think like, will anybody think this is like, funny or, or, or poignant or anything? Like, I honestly remember her saying that like your style is you have a style. Um And so I can't hang on to that. You never know like when those words are going to pop up throughout your life. But that's the artist in you, right? I feel like most artists feel that way about their art that they put out in the world and they don't know how it's going to be received, but it's something to them.
Yeah, I think you just quoted Rick Rubin from the book I'm reading, I'm not even joking. Yeah, I think that's true. Um And then you can't really help it that you have to do it. Like, I feel like sometimes ideas or inspiration come and like this is happening and you're just like, putting it out or this is, you're just like the vehicle for it to be, that was going to be my next question is where do these stories come from? Is it experience based? Is it just random, like ideas or how, what I would say like 99% is experience based?
I mean, I would probably say like 100% because it's all the storytelling is either based on experiences that I had or based on some reflection about some event or some issue tied to an experience I had. Um, sometimes I give my opinion that, you know, people may not want to hear, but that's ok. And I actually, I went through a period after my divorce, um where I wanted to challenge myself to feel ok with how, with my own opinion, no matter what anybody thought. So I was like, I'm going to write and publish every single day.
Um No matter who reads it, no matter, maybe no one will see it. Maybe some people will see it. Maybe some people will be angry. It doesn't matter. And at first, like pushing the publish button was like, oh my gosh, oh my gosh. Um But then it just got a lot easier and it didn't really matter honestly though. How amazing is that? Can you imagine if everybody forced themselves to be comfortable in their own opinion and really challenge their own opinion where we might be in a different place if that were true.
I love that. I think too. It, like forces you to be like, why do I have this opinion? Like, why do I feel this way? And then it just starts other conversations and learning opportunities too. So that was a really cool experiment. We need to get Ben to. Well, a lot of times I think people are just afraid of what others will think about their opinion. Right. But that's not really the point of it. It's really just to get it out there. Yeah. Or to really understand why do you feel this way or do you really feel this way?
I love that. That's awesome. Ok. So you came from Michigan to Arizona? Why? Arizona? So my parents had a vacation home in Sedona when I was younger and so they moved there when I left high school, I joked that they had their bags packed on graduation night and they were like, waving goodbye to me. Um, but they really were like out. Um, and so I stayed back for a couple of years because I'm like, this is everything, this is my best friend, this is everything, you know how it is.
Um, and then ended up transferring just because friends lives changed and people were transferring away from school and all that type of stuff and like, well, no better time than now, I guess I'll just go start. So I moved to Mesa, um by myself, like my parents were in Sedona but that seemed close enough. Um, and got myself like a teeny tiny apartment and just started fresh from there trying to figure out all the streets and how to get to a S U and all of that.
So, yeah. And then did you have a job right away? Waiting tables, like in school? Yeah, waiting tables. And then, um, eventually while at the broadcasting school I got an internship at this radio station. I really wanted to be at a sports radio station. And, um, that turned into a little bit of work. They don't really hire full timers that much radio stations. It's mostly part time unless you're, like, on air all day. Right. Um, so I worked there and there they have a wire service that would come in of sports news and I ended up getting a job with the wire service because it's written and then that's when I was like, oh, this is what I should be doing.
So, yeah, just turned into that in the sports space. So you got a big passion for sports. Then when I was a kid I did, um, I like it now watching my kids but I don't sit around and watch professional sports anymore. My childhood bedroom I had, you know, I'm home alone when he, like, fixed the party and he has that life size Michael Jordan cut out. That was in my bedroom. I had Michael Jordan all over my walls. I had probably the only Patrick Ewing poster that ever existed was in my bedroom, um Fab four or Fab five or whatever they were.
Um So, yeah, my room was covered in sports illustrated covers. Um, but I kind of grew out of that because I thought I was going to go work for the NBA for real. Did you play sports too or just, just loved watching them. I loved watching them. I was on the team because we had a small enough school where you could make a team. But like I was the kid, I'm not joking. I was a kid on the basketball team that made a basket and the whole place erupted because it was like, she finally made a basket like a penny chair.
No, they were like, honestly excited for me and I'm sure you have a story about that. I'm sure I've written about it as well. Yeah. Ok. Another big thing in your journey has a lot to do with this uh relationship. The marriage, talk about that. That seems like that's a big twist for you. Yeah. Um Talk about reflecting on that. That takes a whole lot of time to reflect. Um And I think I still am like, things come up and I'll be like, why do I respond that way to that?
And then go oh, and then it like really starts to still come together. But um yeah, I was married for 15 years. Um, I had three kids and while I'm in it it doesn't seem really crazy or really abnormal because it's what I know. And it's very much like the most gradual climb you will ever take. Um, when I got out, you know, I was talking to some advocates and they're like, well, no one will do that to you on the first date or you wouldn't come back, like, oh, yeah.
You know, um, and then I really struggled with, um, but I'm like, smart, you know, I'm smart and savvy and, um, you know, I'm professional. Like, how, how did I fall into this trap? And it was like, um, you know, you were kind of like a catch like they, you made the abuser look good because you are like successful, successful and smart. And, um, so anyway, I'm, I'm going in a bunch of different directions but, um, the, the very gradual climb over time, I call it like a very slow drip.
I've described it. Um, now looking back like the very first year of our marriage, I noticed stuff that was not the same when we were dating. And, um, it was, there was a comment where, um, it was, I questioned some activity that he was doing and it was, this is what husbands do, like, mind your business type of thing. And I was like, oh, I, ok, I didn't know that. Like, I didn't know this is my husband did because they don't. But, um, but it just kind of sat with me and there were moments all along the way that it, um, I allowed and so they continued and what I mean by I allowed, um, I definitely got upset and I definitely said something about it, but I definitely stayed and so then it could continue if that makes sense.
Yeah, there's only so much I can do without leaving to say that you're not allowing it. Um So yes, it unfortunately um spiraled downward. Um I don't know how much you want me to get into it. I can, I feel comfortable talking about it but um very much like world closing in isolating from family um making it difficult for me to go out with anybody or have any social life because of the repercussions. Then when I got home, if that makes sense, like I would get home and get yelled at or it would be some argument or who are you with?
What were you doing? I even had to call like wrong numbers back. How many wrong number, wrong number, phone calls do you get on your cell phone sometimes? You know, like who's that? Call me back right now? You know, it's just weird. Um Anyway, uh so maybe talk about how and who helped you get through this with anybody because that sounds like it would be an interesting journey too. Multiple friends spoke up over the years I had actually my best friend's parents cornered me at a funeral once while I was in Michigan.
And I was like, this is not the time of the place and mind your own business. And they were like, my second parents. Um, but it just took years and years of people saying this isn't right and this isn't right. And, you know, it takes finding that inner strength somewhere and sometimes that takes time. Yeah. And, um, you know, you've heard over time like people you can take a horse to water or whatever or you can, you can tell people over and over the same thing and they won't believe it until it just clicks in their head and it just didn't click in my head for a very long time.
And it sounds cliche but it is very true that you have to be sick and tired of being sick and tired and then you just break and do what you need to do. Yeah. Yeah. And right towards the end, it was like just boiling pot of water. You know, I just couldn't, I was like that was so that was it for me. You know, that was like on the day that I was done. I was like, so this is done now. So, yeah, but mostly I would say mostly friends that just kind of, you know, were I guess, courageous enough or worried enough to speak up and say like I had someone slide the signs of domestic violence to me across the table.
Um once on their phone and was like, you need to read these and I read them, I could check every box just terrifying. And you shared with us that once you made that decision and you left the world opened up for you. What did that look like for you? I will say at first it was scary. There were still very scary periods. Um because um my choice was not a welcome one as you can imagine. So, um once I navigated, I think um the legal system and um that really helped to like build your strength up a little bit.
Like man, I could do that. I can go to a courtroom and say something to a judge in front of him and be ok and walk out and be fine like that really like starts to build your muscle a little bit. Um And then just individually making decisions, um individually seeing money in my account for a change, you know. Um Just, I don't know, it just, I think they compound on each other, all those decisions and all that growth on your own. And then you get to a great perspective though.
It is building a muscle, right? And sometimes there's a crack in it and you have to work through that and rebuild a little bit. But yeah, and when I talk to Survivors now, um I remind them that um they are exhibiting tremendous strength just to be where they are just to be in the relationship just to survive the relationship and get through what you're getting through every day takes strength. Um So, because I think that a lot of times you think like, man, I was so weak or I was so dumb or whatever and um just to be in it every day and being in fight or flight mode every single day takes a tremendous amount of strength.
So at some point, you see the opportunity to serve others and you establish uh for your record. So this offers financial grants to help domestic abuse survivors cover court related fees. Talk to me about why that was so important to you and um how that assistance is so important to, to the victims in no way, shape or form. Did I get out of a marriage and say I'm going to make a nonprofit? Like that was the furthest thing from my mind it was, I'm going to get my bills paid and handle this, right?
Make sure the kids are fine. So, um it really just goes back to like a point of inspiration I think um based on the experience that I had, like I tell people throughout my whole process, um you know, I had learned like where the bathrooms are in four different courthouses. Like that's I know where the parking meters are and how much it's going to cost me to be at these different courthouses from downtown to Pennell County to County to Gilbert. Um, so that's valuable information that I had to kind of find on my own but could be used, someone else could benefit from.
Um, and when, uh, a few years had passed after my divorce and was sharing custody and there was another incident not involving me but involving my ex and his other, I guess the rest of his life. Um, And so there were more charges and I just felt like, I don't know, justice wasn't served, I guess. Um So I was frustrated and there was nothing I could do like the case was over and there's nothing I could do about it. So, so I didn't stew on it. I thought, what could I do with this information or these feelings or how could I channel this better and just started thinking about my own experience and what I had learned.
But then also the costs associated with filing for emergency custody, which I had to do. I was minding my own business, but I had to file for emergency custody to get my kids and it was like around $400 and then I had to get a process server which is another 100 120. Um and I thought, oh, thank goodness I have that. But I know that that's a lot of money to people and that could be the barrier between staying and going. Yeah, and I was lucky. I had parents that supported me with my divorce.
It was very costly. Um, but you can get divorced on your own. You don't have to have an attorney and, um, you can file your own paperwork and, but that in and of itself costs around $133. And if it's an emergency situation, you want to get disconnected from this person, I would hate for someone to feel like they had to stay because they didn't have 300 bucks. So that's kind of how that came to be. And then it was really only a thought in my head like this has to be a problem.
And then as soon as I started formulating the idea and talking about it, it was like, it was just confirmed that this totally is a problem. And then when we launched, it was just people coming and you know, through victims advocates coming to us saying they can't believe that this type of aid even exists. You say we, so there's other people involved in this with you then, yeah, we have a full board um of I think we're 12 in total, our board. Um just so happen to be all women, but we help everyone.
Um we've helped men, we help um people in same sex relationships because that has its own complications if they're not wanting to be out and talk to their family members about stuff like that. So um yeah, I pitched the idea to a handful of friends that have been like big supporters or had some type of connection to like domestic violence. And immediately I was like, push send and like close one eye and then they started coming back like I did, you even read what I wrote you yet?
You know, and they were like, we're in, we're in, we're in, we're in, we're in. So, yeah, so we formed a board and took six months to kind of plan what our process would look like. And um, so grateful that I had people around to ask these questions, uh stuff that I don't think about. Um for example, just like you can't just call someone back on your phone at least like you've got to protect your number or you can't just go meet someone and give them a check because someone might be following them like these are things I don't even think I would have never thought about because I just wanted to help people.
So, um yeah, and they're everywhere. They're all over in different time zones and we do everything over because it launched in the pandemic. So we do everything over zoom and everything over email and that's great. Sounds amazing. Well, congratulations to you on that effort and I can't wait to see where that goes. Um, but I, I do want to talk now because this is a very cool story as well. So you are married now and you met your husband while backpacking and it's literally a story made for Hollywood.
So I think this is very cool and they, well, I'll let you tell the story. You start. How did you meet? What does this look like for you? So, um, I was about, I think it was like almost nine months separated and was invited to have a Supai falls hike down the Grand Canyon. Um, which is kind of like, I don't want to say once in a lifetime because the guide that I went with who's just a friend and he casually guides friends. Um, he's been 11 times but he's obsessed with.
Um, so, but for most people, I would say it's a once in a lifetime hike, I had never been backpacking, you know, I hike out and do normal hikes like normal people do in Arizona, but not like that. Like out in the superstition. It is for me, it, the other people I get it. So I did all those. Um, and, and he was like, let's go. You should do this. And I don't know, I just was like, this is my chance. I can finally say yes to something.
It's only 100 and 50 bucks. It's a lot more now, but it was only 100 and 50 bucks then let's go. Um, my parents had the kids and I just went and, um, the hike is a 10 mile hike with everything you need for. However long you're down there on your back. So the hike down is, I would say harder than the hike out, even though the hike out is uphill switchbacks and you're, you're just really tired by then. But anyway, um, you hike in and camp, um, and just hike out to these different waterfalls every day.
They're just magical. You know, they're this color of blue that I've never seen before. Um, and there was like a group of six of us I think. Um And every day we'd hike to a waterfall, have lunch, swim and splash and take pictures and then come back and look at the stars at night. And it was just like so simple compared to life at home. That was so chaotic. Like when I had left, my window had been broken in my room, I was dealing with getting that replaced.
Um And so this guy in the group, I had talked to him a couple of times like just casually. He was like, what are you writing? Because I was always writing down there. And um I told him it was just a hot mess in my journal. You know, it was like, I'm trying to figure out my whole life what I told him. And then on the last day, we were jumping off this like smaller waterfall that was jump and um I couldn't go until I had a few seconds of eye contact with him for whatever reason.
Like he was practically a stranger, but I just felt connected to him and then he just, like, stood in front of me and jumped off backwards and I was like, whoa, ok. Fine. So then I went and from that point on, I think we've been inseparable. Yeah, there's so much more, you know, like we just continued a venturing together and building a whole relationship. But, like, he was from Gilbert, I'm from Gilbert and we met in the bottom of the Grand Canyon. It's just bonkers and we jumped off a waterfall together.
What a start. Yeah, like no pressure for the rest of the relationship. What would have happened if you hadn't jumped? I know that's what I think about. And he wasn't feeling great that morning of the hike that we left and he almost didn't go. So I always say that I'm like, oh my gosh, thank God you went. That's funny. I was, I always tell my kids if your friends jump off a cliff, would you do it too? In this case, the answer is yes, I know. Well, there was a nice splash down at the bottom.
But yeah, you really do. Sound like a dad. That's what you do. All right. So talk to me, it said um you shared with us that it is literally an Emmy Award winning short film. Yeah. So the Arizona Office of Tourism found out about it because I told the story as part of a storyteller event. And um because again, my friend Megan was running it and she knew everything that had been going on with me. And she's like, you have to tell this story. Um So then the Arizona Office of Tourism was looking for a story that talks about how the Grand Canyon changed someone's life, like being in it, not from the overlook.
And she was like Lisa. So, um yeah, so we went with the film crew and um got to go back down into the Grand Canyon together and hike around in there and be on the river which we love doing anyway. Um So that was cool. And then I got submitted, submitted for an Emmy and it won. So, yeah, it is crazy that there's a tiny film about our life. We're going to have to link to that one. I was gonna say that's pretty amazing. Yeah, that's fantastic.
Ok. So what's next then? That sounds like an incredible moment. How do you get better than that? Where does it go? Well, for, for your record, like we'd love to be able to expand beyond Arizona. I mean, we definitely counsel people out beyond state lines if they call and they need, they just want to know what's next or how do I manage this or what do I do with my order protection? You know, um that can happen anywhere but from a financial standpoint, we write our grants directly to the court that someone's filing in.
So it's not to a person that's part of our like protection measures. Um And so if we're moving beyond the state, we need to find out different processes and um more funding. So that's kind of the next move for us, I think as a board um propping that up a little bit more learning how to do some grant writing because I don't know how to do that. Um But I think, I think that has trajectory behind it. This is a problem that is everywhere. Um And it's, I don't know, it's something that can change someone's life.
I mean, without that, without that support, they're just kind of stuck. So, and we're also doing something that nobody else is doing. There's no other support like it out there for court filing piece. Um On a personal note, we're just adventuring as much as we can. Um school schedules get in the way sometimes and now the kids are getting older so they have work schedules so that even gets in the way. It's kind of a drag. We're like get a job and then we're like get time off. Yeah.
What are your kids? Um My oldest is 16 and then we're about to have a 15 year old next week and then we've got 14, 13, 10. So it's like Domino's. But yeah, and I'm working on a book. So that's cool. And through my second edit on that, which is exciting. Yeah. Ok. I want to share, uh, words of wisdom that you shared with us, uh, which seems, uh, even heavier now that we know your story. If you don't like something change it, if you can't change it, change your attitude about it, what does this mean to you?
It means everything. Uh, I don't even remember when I heard it first, but when I heard it, I wrote it down in my notebook that I carry with me everywhere, ripped off the page and pinned it up in the kitchen and it's been there ever since. Um, it's just a crummy piece of paper, like, written in pencil. So I don't know, I point to it, you know, when the kids are upset about something, I point to it and, you know, check that out and see how you can reframe what you're thinking.
Um, I think that that reframing part is huge for anybody. Um, once you figure out how to do it, it's like, where has this been my whole life? You know, it keeps you moving forward rather than like being stuck on some bad situation or bad, like train of thoughts? You know. So, and I think it definitely is how for your record was born because just flipped everything around. Well, I have to say you're just, you're incredible force. I can't wait to see. What is the name of your book?
Do you have a title yet? You haven't settled on something uh currently there is a curse word in it. So um but it, it deals with being scared blank um and like adventuring while being scared because I feel like we see these adventurers like Nat GEO and stuff and they all look tough and confident and then there's just normal us thinking I couldn't do those things, but really you can because at some point they were scared too. So you're saying I should venture beyond the mailbox. I won't even take you.
Let's go. Just get her around the block first. That's a good story. I'm tired just thinking about it. This has been awesome. Thank you so much for sharing your journey and the story behind it, it truly has a story and I love that about it. So, thank you. Awesome. Thank you so much. This has been an awesome one. If you want more of these, join our tribe, subscribe and you will get those in your inbox. We hope to hear from you again. Bye, guiding growth, conversations with community leaders.
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